Is it a setback or a set forward

Hi readers, it's been a while but I am glad to be back and writing again. Today's session will be a special one because it is something that I have dealt with in the past and more than likely will deal with again in the future. These things that I am referring to are called "Setbacks". In life, we are bound to come across some sort of setback whether big or small and how you handle them is important. For some, when they are hit with a setback, they aren't able to bounce back from it but then others are able to use a setback and treat it like it's the best thing that ever happened to them in hindsight. Have you ever wondered why that is? I truly believe it comes from our attitude towards the event that can determine what we do next.

I'll give two examples of the same setback but different outcomes all based on attitude. Person A and Person B both get laid off from their jobs after many years of working there. Both people, have periods of sadness because of the setback that just occurred. This is normal because it is an unexpected setback. However, what happens next is important, person A loses their sense of worth and complains about his current position, doesn't apply for job, and continues in a self loathing path. Person B on the other hand, takes time to reflect on what they want and decide to start their own business and ends up making more money than they did at the job they were laid off from. What I am trying to say here is that sometimes setbacks can become blessings in disguise if you choose to look at it that way.

When dealing with a setback here are someways to help with the situation:

1. Practice Gratitude Even though something unexpected happened, taking stock of what you're grateful for can go a long way. It can sometimes even allow you to forget about what just happened.
   

2. Worry about what you can control You can always control your attitude when things happen to you. A huge part of life is responding to things that happen to you. Things that happen to you aren't necessarily your fault but responding to them in a healthy manner is your responsibility.
   

3. It won't rain forever Setbacks suck in the moment but knowing that they won't last forever is liberating. Train your mind to understand this as soon as possible. More likely than not, you will forget about the setback because you have bounced back in to something new. You survived 100% of your bad days and this one will be no different. Everything is temporary and this is no different.
   

4. Allow yourself to feel everything It's okay to feel some type of way about what might've just happened. You don't have to be invincible or nonchalant. Acknowledge your emotions, feel your emotions, but don't lose yourself to your emotions. Just let the feelings come and go without any judgement.
   

5. Take time to reflect Sometimes, we get too comfortable in our lives and we begin to operate in autopilot. When setbacks happen, it causes us to be reactive rather than proactive. However when you reflect and evaluate often, it can allow you to be more proactive. Never get too comfortable because sometimes signs point towards another setback if you're not careful.

Well that's it for another training session. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and I hope this helps you navigate life when setbacks do occur.

Until Next Time,

E. Ibadin